Monthly Advice | How to date attractive people

by - 11/15/2014

dating This post is for all my single ladies out there! A couple of years ago, one my friends made a comment about this guy I was seeing, and she said, "Where do you meet all these good looking guys from? And where can I get one for myself?" Maybe not in those exact words, but she said something similar. I have to say there are 6 keys to finding someone attractive. Now my version of attractive might not be the same for you, but I think these 6 keys will help anyone find the best person for you to date.

1. Confidence:
I'm always super confident. Even when I feel like crap, I will try to exude confidence. It's like it this: "Fake it till you make it". And if you are shy, or just overall not talkative, people will notice. You should try to open up. When I used to go to parties with my friends, I would always try to talk to someone. Even if the topic is on something random, like, "Hey, how do you like this dip over here? I think it's __________. (Fill in with whatever you want)" The thing I'm trying to say, is get out there, meet some new people! Talk, communicate, and be open to hanging out with new friends! You never know what kind of opportunities will open up, once you go out there and explore the world.

2. Cockiness:
Now this might be a big no no for some of you, but if you act cocky then you might just get the attention of that fella you were eyeing earlier. But be warned, don't be too cocky, because you might just turn him away. You need to balance cockiness, with confidence. If you just a little bit cocky, with a whole lot of confidence, then you are good to go. 15% cockiness, with 85% confidence is the way to go. Just make sure that your cockiness doesn't exceed 50% or more. Because that will be a turn off for guys. Just saying.

3. Know your limits:
No guy, and I repeat NO GUY wants a drunk girl on their hands all night. Sorry, I've been there done that. And the biggest turn off for anyone is having to babysit your drunk ass all night. So if you are going to go out with your girl friends for a night out, please make sure you know your limits. You don't want to get wasted, and then have that cute guy look at you, like you're a nuisance.

4. Guys are like girls... Somewhat:
Now, I know this might sound a little weird, but most guys are like girls. And in fact men actually want to settle down. I know, I know, it sounds ridiculous doesn't it? Well there were several surveys done by, askmen, and esquire, and 96% of men want to get married. Which might sound kind of crazy but it's true. If men really want to settle down, they will. And if you are the right person for him, then hey who knows maybe you snagged the guy of your dreams.

5. Don't string along a guy:
I'm guilty of this. I mean who isn't? I feel like this is probably one lesson I should take seriously... But sometimes it's not always the girl's fault. Some guys are just crazy/needy/whiny. Or anything that ends in a Y. And you just need to cut those guys off, if you feel like they are no longer an important part of your life. I know it's hard, but some of these guys just need to know that it won't work out with you. And if they can't handle it, then it's their problem, not yours. Once you cut off the guy who's been clingy or whatever, you will be open to possibilities of dating other guys.

6. Don't rush:
And don't rush things with a guy that you might not really like, or who isn't nice to you! If you get into a relationship with a guy who's a jerk to you, you need to leave! And I mean straight up run away screaming your head off leave! And if you start dating someone who you don't really like, you need to let that person know how you feel. Because girlfriend, that goes along with #5. And trust me, you don't want to date someone you don't like. Because if later on things start to get serious, and you find little imperfects about him you are going to hate yourself for staying with him. By the way whoever the fuck termed "Forever Alone" should probably go die in a ditch somewhere.

What are some tips you have for dating?


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  1. Interesting tips and quite unique...XD

    I have no idea for any tips for dating since I have been out of the "start dating game" for a long time.

    Confidence is I agree is important for not just dating but for your own self and maintaining a positive outlook to life and getting where you need to be in career etc.

    Yes, a little bit of cockiness is something I find fun and playful for cracking up jokes etc.

    Have a good day!!!

    Keep up the posts!

    恵美より ♥


  2. The name of your post is so funny in a good way. But yep all your points are spot on. But have to say this reminds me of one of the reasons i stopped dating. It is just all so exhausting! Haha.

    Allie of ALLIE NYC

  3. I agree that dating can get exhausting, but I like to think of it this way, if I meet the right person, we will definitely have a good time together! :)

  4. I think the tip I went by was “Try to connect with someone with the same goals" as much as possible. :)

  5. My biggest tips are simply this: Don't go looking for love most of the time, it will find you. Throw yourself into things you love and mingle with people, and always be yourself. You can't pretend your whole life if the other person isn't willing to accept you as you.

    Good tips regardless!



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